During this time you may be feeling a lot of big emotions like worry and frustration. You might be worried that you’ve missed out on your footy grand final. You might be frustrated that it’s raining and you can’t go for a walk. You might feel anxious about completing a piece of work for school. These emotions are totally normal but sometimes all the worry in the world will not change the fact that a particular event is happening.
One thing that I want to share with you today is…
There’s NO point in worrying about things you CAN NOT control.
I want to introduce you all to the Circle of Control. In this circle are all the things in your life that you CAN control. These are the things that we should be putting our time, energy and emotions into. By putting lots of time, energy and positivity into these things we can make a huge impact on our day. Some examples are below…
By focusing more on your own “Circle of Control” instead of the many things you can not control, you can make a big difference in how you are feeling each day. Happy instead of sad, confident instead of worried, determined instead of frustrated!
We CAN NOT control others’ thoughts, behaviours and choices.
We CAN control our own thoughts, behaviours and choices.
We CAN NOT control the fact that school work and homework will happen.
We CAN control how much time we spend on school work, how much effort we put in, or whether we complete the tasks.
We CAN NOT control how annoying our siblings might be today.
We CAN control how we respond to our siblings.
We CAN NOT control how others look after themselves.
We CAN control looking after ourselves by moving our bodies, eating healthy foods and drinking lots of water.
Today, I’d love for you to follow the steps below to create your own ‘Circle of Control’.
Find a place that is calm for you. This might be your room, a place in your backyard or somewhere else special in your house.
On a large piece of paper draw a large circle, taking up about the top half of the sheet.
In the middle of the circle put your name and the words “I CAN CONTROL”.
We need to put our time, energy, and emotions towards the things we CAN control and not to waste them on things we CAN NOT. Come up with some examples of things that can go in the circle, drawing or writing a sentence or picture.
When you think of something that CAN NOT be controlled, write or draw that concept OUTSIDE the circle.
Once you have a number of things listed in both areas, hang your Circle of Control in a place that is easily visible so that you can look at it regularly.
As you think of new ideas, add them to your circle (or outside your circle)!
When you are feeling worried or anxious, look at your Circle of Control and ask yourself, “is that inside my Circle of Control?” If the answer is NO, remember not to spend your time, energy and emotions on it.
I hope you are all doing really well. I’d love to see the Circle of Control posters you are creating at home. Feel free to email me at any time at email@example.com
– Mrs Rust 🙂